Struggling to have a loving relationship with self and others?
If you're feeling stuck and the brightness of life is missing, perhaps you need to connect with your heart.
I'm going to be completely honest with you and tell you my heart is being split open on a continual basis right now forcing me to confront where I lack self-love and keep feeling into my heart.
Why is this so important?
Because when you love, you are more deeply connected to the truth of who you are and your inner guidance system which means you not only make the best choices for you, you are alert to others needs also.
Being triggered by these words? Yep, I hear you. Dismantling our long-held views about big subjects like LOVE can be confronting. Allow them. Allow all of them. All of your deep-seated views of what it is to love, feel love, be loved.
But this love is not limited to family and friends, it's expanded to all - strangers, the planet, animals..
Connecting with God's creatures even the ugly ones..
The other day I looked at a maybug on my doorstep - ugly big things I've always found. I took my daughter to school, got ready to do a run and it was still there but was now in some trouble having landed on it's back.
I found myself sitting next to this difficult-to-love creature (always found them so creepy) and talking to it like I would one of my children, gently helping it right itself. I spoke lovingly and tenderly to it, encouraging it to take flight to a more pleasant environ than the one it had found itself on - my stone doorstep. Within a moment, it departed and I felt the contentment I only find when I connect, when I'm in true alignment with my soul and the planet - when I'm "in love with life."
When we speak of being in love, it is usually associated with one other being, our significant other.
What if we extended it to the whole of life? How would things be different for us?
Well I can only speak from personal experience to say that life appears very differently when we love with true presence, without barriers, without resistance. When we love truly from the heart.
But a voice inside our head will say, no no - don't do that - you'll get yourself in trouble. You'll feel vulnerable, scared, cut open - people could hurt you. You'll get let down. Even for some, the message might be, you won't survive.
On this planet, you must be strong and carry armour - self-protection. Don't let people in too close. Control yourself. That way you'll stay safe. Hmmm!! I listen to that voice for a moment before encouraging my wise, loving inner coach to intervene.
Warning: Coming from a place of love means feeling into difficult emotions sometimes, into the blocks that surround our heart. It's not all light, love and the universe. At times, it's deeply painful as we relive our past and deconstruct our limiting beliefs, for eg; if I love fully, I might get hurt. If this is the case for you ( I don't know anyone for whom it isn't), I suggest inviting your inner coach to nurture your inner child in that moment- soothe him or her as your feelings come from the child part of you.
As Venus ( the planet of love comes out of retrograde), this is an opportune time to work on love stuff as planetary and universal influences force us to clear out the old and invite new ways of being so I invite you dear friends, to connect with your heart for a deeper, more profound way of living.
Racism
And as I wrestle with my new-found understanding of what it means to no longer not see colour, to no longer describe myself as a non-racist but to see myself as anti-racist and fully embrace diversity, the invitation to go deeper into the core of my being where ALL the beliefs I have about EVERYTHING are held, I can sort those to be chucked out or kept.
This requires a daily commitment to self, a complete priority of self-care, of regularly and consistently tuning into my higher self for self-betterment and betterment of the world.
Literally nothing else matters but love - love of self and love of others. Call me sentimental, romantic, unrealistic, soppy, head in the clouds and all those other demeaning statements when it comes to love BUT LITERALLY NOTHING ELSE MATTERS.
It is the basis to success in all things you desire and wish for to live a purposeful life.
And it's not as simple as assuming you love enough. You have to work on it every single day to dismantle ALL of society's and family's and personal negative beliefs around fully opening your heart and living the term, a heart-centred life.
If you can love, you can connect, if you can connect, you can heal, if you can heal, you can create change.
Why wouldn't you want that?
Personally. I don't just CARE about you. I LOVE YOU. I LOVE YOU FULL-STOP.
Nothing less will do if I want to do the transformative healing work I do AND live my dream life. That's all I care about because the love vibration is the most healing vibration in the universe and my work is about healing at the core not some quick fix diet.
When we don't try to possess love through others. When we love others as ourselves, we make the world go round, we make the world a better place. But we can't do this from a place of self-hatred, self-loathing or control.
Acne
Do you remember Louise Hay who wrote, " Heal your Life?" She was a huge advocate of loving self, attributing each dis-ease to feelings, for eg; acne is a lack of self-acceptance, a dislike of self. Yes with acne, we need to look at diet, we need to look at bowel and liver function but we also need to look at you and how you feel about yourself.
Struggling to have meaningful loving relationships, feeling lost or lonely?
Crack your heart open with deep-centred heart loving inner work, release judgement and watch people migrate towards you and want to be with you. Watch as you form meaningful, loving, caring relationships with others that feed your Soul and theirs. Where you make a difference in their lives and they make a difference in yours, comforting you in times of trouble, soothing you, showing up for you, accepting you as you and vice versa.
You don't have to give anything up to do this. You don't have to lose out or feel drained. That's not love! Love is not a finite resource. Love is infinite. You can fill yourself up whenever you take the time to connect to source within. And look for that good feeling vibration, moment to moment ( connection to source) whether that's talking to a friend, making a delicious meal, listening to music, whatever it is - go in that direction always.
I'm not saying this work is plain sailing. There will likely be tears sometimes and times when you want to give up but it's worth it to clear negative patterns and feel your true essence so you feel purposeful and alive. To want to get up in the morning and live your best life. To feel free and unencumbered and to serve humankind.
So are you ready? As I always say, get in touch here if you want to discover how to feel fully alive, confident, brave, connected and empowered.
And as we continue to navigate the intense universal energies of this eclipse season, the next date to put in your diary is 5th July for the Full moon eclipse. This time is very much about endings, completing a 2 year cycle which started on 13 July 2018.
It is super important to hold yourself in a loving way during these challenging times.
It leaves me to give you a big big hug and with my nutritionist hat on, suggest your water intake is really good in this heatwave. Probably 21/2-3 litres in this weather, not more than 1L in 1 hr.
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